Forgiveness can be difficult, but ...

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 (NIV)

The Oxford Group taught repeatedly that Christ reconciled humankind to God. It followed that a person was to extend this forgiveness to other people.

[Jesus said,] “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother, then come and offer your gift.” Matthew5:23f. (NIV)

There is no limit to God’s forgiveness.

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18:21-22 (NIV)

A person may say, “I know I hurt her, but she did this to me!” This may be an indicator that the person does not want to let go of hurt or anger. Keeping this pain of hurt and anger is not good for the health of our soul nor does it help us to make amends. Making amends is important not only for one’s humility but it is important in restoring a relationship and recovering self-esteem. Good self-esteem is important.

[Jesus replied:] “Love the Lord your God with all your head and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest. And the second is like it: Love your neighbour as yourself. All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments. Matthew 22:37-40 (NIV)